Why can’t I just be normal
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By Amysboarderlineworld

Reading this title, “Why can’t I just be normal?”, there are sure to be some people who will respond:
“There is no such thing as normal!”
“What is normal anyway?”

Which is fine. I get that; but there will also be people who understand exactly what I am talking about. They may even say it to themselves: Why can’t I just be normal?

What is normal?

Normal is a strange word and it means different things for different people, but it is what I aspire to be a lot of the time.

To me, normal is a life without any mental health issues at all. It’s living a life without the constant battles that unfortunately mental health problems bring.

Normal is not having to feel the extreme and spontaneous moods swings brought about by BPD. It’s not hating myself and my appearance so much that my life is ruled by food. It’s not having to fight that demon depression almost every day in order to be able to carry out the simplest of tasks. Normal is being able to talk to people, friends, family, without stressing about it for hours before and analysing it for days afterwards!

I just want to be normal!

I don’t want to struggle and feel completely exhausted from doing the simplest things like the school run!

It’s embarrassing. It’s upsetting. At times, it’s soul destroying.

Why can’t I be normal?

I suppose normal to me is my husband. I envy him and at times definitely aspire to be like him. He is quite possibly one of the most laid back people on the planet! He doesn’t care what others think of him, but that’s not in an obnoxious way. He is very kind and caring and will do anything for anyone, but if he doesn’t want to then he will say no. Just like that. He will not spend hours and days worrying about it, he will simply say that’s his decision, that he has his reasons, and he moves on. He is not preoccupied by what others are doing or saying; he doesn’t overthink things and stress about insignificant details. He simply lives his life.

Why can’t I be like that??

Oh I can pretend to be like that; I have done that for many years (and sometimes still do). But I want to feel it for real. I want to feel carefree, light and unburdened by invasive horrible thoughts.

Why can’t I just be normal?

Finding my ‘normal’

I aspire to be normal a lot of the time because I want to be able to relax and switch off sometimes. I do practise mindfulness and yoga/meditation at times, but even this is very difficult for me. It’s a struggle to convince myself that I am allowed to take time out for myself.  I mean how can I be so selfish when there is housework to be done and work to finish?! Yet when I do practise these things I feel the difference and I suppose that’s what I need to understand – that is my normal.

I am who I am.

I can improve on areas of myself that might cause me hurt, upset or even damage. But ultimately I am Amy and it would be stupid and a waste of time to try to be anyone else.

I won’t give up

I know I am going to struggle at times, that is just the nature of my illnesses, but I do not give up easily. I am, as my husband tells me, very strong willed. If I want something, I get it, no matter how difficult. Thats’s not a trait many people have so I am seeing that as a positive and I am grateful for it.

Remember always to be kind, you never know what battles people might be facing.

Love Amy x

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