Starting Over (yet again) at 34

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By Victoria Jane

Ok, so a tiny part of me had hoped that by the time I reached the adult age of 35 (which I have now kind of extended until I’m 40) that I would be happily married, have a few children, own my own car, house and my own business. I would be brilliantly successful in life with several wonderful stories to tell my children about my great adventures travelling the world.

I think you may have guessed by now that this hasn’t happened. Well a few things did get boxed off but not everything that I had initially planned.

Changing Directions

You see, life doesn’t always go to plan, (no shit I hear you say) or at least in the direction you have always dreamed it would go. Is this really such a terrible thing though? I don’t believe it is and I am going to explain why.

Picture yourself 5 or even 10 years ago from now and where you are today. Think of all the things that you have done and achieved within the last 5 or even 10 years of your life. Are you happy? If the answer is no, then something got a little bit fucked up along the way. This really is no big deal as everyone makes mistakes and all is entirely fixable (well most of it anyway). If the answer is yes, it’s a possibility that you took some ownership along the way and made some changes to get where you are today.

Back to the unhappy bit, if something did fuck up a little and you are still unhappy, change something. This could be anything no matter how big or small, your hair, your job, location, anything. Still unsure as to why you are unhappy? Make another change and if you are still unhappy, keep changing things until you are happy. Sounds simple, right? Well not really, however, if you are feeling like you are stuck in a rut without any kind of direction in life, you really are not, I can at least promise you this.

Starting Over

Any kind of change big and small can have an impact on you and others. So its super important to weigh up any pro’s and cons especially if you plan on doing anything drastic. Change can also take a great deal of time and effort to do. It can have a financial impact, and also impact on your mental wellbeing. As long as the change you plan on making benefits you and the people who are important to you in the long run, there shouldn’t be any long-term issues created by this change.

If something has changed in your life that has been completely out of your control, the same rules apply. Keep changing things until you are happy plus also always remember that famous saying; Rome wasn’t built in a day.

Reproduced with permission, originally posted here